My girlfriend has AIDS

Dear Pastor,

I am a 40-year-old man and I am writing to you for advice. I read your column often, and my radio is stuck on Power106 FM.

I listen to your show every night. It is a great show. I am writing to you about a problem I am having. About a year ago, I met a young lady. She is a lovely lady, but she has a big problem. After we got to know each other, she told me that she had a secret to tell me. I was wondering what that could be. It took her about three weeks to tell me what it was. When she finally told me, I was shocked and did not want her to even touch me. She said she contracted AIDS, but she is in good physical health. I did not know what to say, because I had never gone out with anybody who has AIDS. This lady has become a Christian, and she has avoided men because she does not know who to trust.

I have not told anybody about her and I did not call her name, but I spoke to a medical practitioner and asked him for general advice. He told me that any individual with AIDS can live a normal life. I have come to love this girl so much. We have never had sex or anything like that. I don't want to do anything stupid, that is why I am writing to you for your advice. I do not have children, but I would like to have at least one. Please give me your advice.

S.G.

Dear S.G.,

I must declare that I am not a medical doctor, but I have read extensively about AIDS, and I have discussed this matter with people who give advice to folks who are living with AIDS.

I can imagine how shocked you were when this beautiful lady told you about her condition. I am sure the thought came to your mind to cease having any relationship with her. But I believe that it is very difficult for you, because you have come to love this young woman. My understanding is that one should not allow an infected person's body fluids, blood, semen, vaginal fluids, saliva to enter your own body through a cut or abrasion.

This lady and you should sit with a medical doctor and have them explain everything about AIDS. Both of you can also call the National Family Planning Board for advice. You will find them to be very helpful. I have known people who have AIDS and have great family life. So, don't throw your hands up into the sky and give up. I believe if this woman and you are genuinely in love, both of you should be able to get married and live happily together.

Pastor