I fake orgasm to please my husband

Dear Pastor,

I am 37 years old and I have two jobs. My husband has one job and he gets home earlier than I do.

I appreciate my husband a lot because when he gets home, he prepares dinner. I leave one job at 3 p.m. and start another at 4 p.m., and I work until 11 p.m.

Sometimes when I go home, I am very tired, but my husband is always prepared to have sex. It is not always easy to cope, but I have learnt a way to make my husband feel very happy and be satisfied. It is a trick I have developed over many months, and up to now my husband has not yet caught on. Many times when my husband feels that I have come to orgasm, I have not. I am only faking it.

My husband likes to hear when I make noise. He believes that I am excited and that he is doing a mighty good job. I am only trying to get some sleep, but there are times when I really need my husband to go a little longer with me, so I ease up on my pretending to be excited.

My husband asked me if I have ever tried to fake and I told him no, I have never done such thing, and he believes me. Now, I can never tell him that I am a faker. How would he know the difference now?

May I have your comments please?

D.,

Dear D.,

First of all, I know it might be very difficult for you because you are doing two jobs and you are not always in the mood to have sex for any long period. However, this matter of faking can affect your relationship. It shouldn't take a wise man to discover if his woman is faking all the time.

I can imagine that there are times when a woman is very tired, but her husband insists that he wants that precious stuff, that she may resort to faking. In your case, it is better for you and your husband to make love on the nights that you do not work. Both of you should discuss what days would be appropriate to enjoy each other.

Some women enjoy having sex with their men on a Friday night, because that is the day he brings money home. Some do enjoy making love on Sunday evenings after they have had dinner and have put the children to bed early.

I am not going to condemn you for faking; however, I must discourage you from doing it so often.

Pastor