Diabetes has ruined my sex life

Dear Pastor,

I am 61 years old and I am not in the very best of health. My wife is 45, but she is in very good health.

Sometimes I am embarrassed when she calls on me for sexual movements. I am not able to function well. She is very understanding. I had surgery three years ago, but I have not fully recovered. But she helps herself in different ways.

I am doing much better than before, but sometimes I wonder whether my wife is cheating, because how could a woman, who is not ill, put up with me? The doctor says that the drugs I am taking can affect my sexual performance. My wife is a nurse and she told me these things before the doctor explained certain things to me. I used to be a heavy smoker, but I do not smoke any more. I used to also drink, but I cut that out.

Sometimes when I look at my beautiful wife, especially when she leaves the bathroom and comes into the room in the nude, she look so pretty. I wonder how long she will bear with me in my state. Sometimes I feel depressed, but I put out my best. My diabetes is under control. My wife tells me not to worry, but often, I do worry.

She calls me while she is at work to check up on me. She is a beautiful soul. Sometimes while we are in bed, she tells me what to do to make her feel happy. I know she can easily find another man, but she has assured me that she will not allow any man to touch her. She is a good Christian woman. What do you think I should do?

K.M.

Dear K.M.,

Your wife has assured you that she will not go with any other man; you should believe her.

The doctor is doing his best to take care of you. Take your medication and follow his advice. Many people suffer from diabetes but are able to function sexually; you will bounce back. I will not embarrass your wife by what you have said that both of you do to make her happy. Some people would suspect what you have written, but they can't say that I divulged this information.

I am glad your wife looks very attractive. I would say that you are blessed by having a beautiful woman. Please let me hear from you again. Continue to admire your wife, and please let her know that you trust her and that you are deeply in love with her. Don't be afraid to tell her that you love her every day.

Pastor