My woman is a liar

Dear Pastor,

Compliments of the season. I hope everything is going well with you. Everything is not going very well with me because although I am not sick in body, my heart is heavy.

I am living with a woman and I provide for her in the very best way that I can. But this woman does not have any time for me. She is up and down all over the place. I spoke to her on many occasions, but she has not stopped. I took her with three children and they all call me daddy. They see how I have treated their mother.

These children belong to two different men. When this woman and I got together, I told her that if she was going to live with me, the men should not come to the house. She should open an account and give the men the number so they could lodge money into it to support their children. She opened the account but the men hardly put money in there. So I have had to be supporting the children and this woman lies so much that I can never believe what she says. Because of her lies, I have grown not to trust her. I do not believe her when she says that she does not have any money.

I have one son and he lives with his mother. I would like to settle down, but I cannot settle down with this woman. It has been three years since we have been together. One of my brothers told me to get her to leave before five years. My child's mother still loves me. What do you think I should do? I have got to love the children, so I don't know what to do. I would like to hear your advice.

B.R.

Dear B.R.,

It is unfortunate that you have to be thinking of leaving this woman, but if you don't trust her, that is what you should do.

You should end the relationship and move on. Love, respect and trust are criteria that a man should look for in a relationship, and evidently, this woman does not love you nor respect you. You cannot trust her. She has not proven to be a trustworthy spouse and you would make it more difficult for yourself if you continue in the relationship.

You should discuss this matter with a lawyer. Don't follow the advice of 'Tom, Dick and Harry'. Talk to a lawyer and he or she will advise you about what can be legally done to save yourself from problems. I wish you well.

Pastor