I think my boyfriend is the greatest

Dear Pastor,

I am a 20-year-old girl and I have a boyfriend who is 23. He has two children with another girl, but that does not bother me, because his babymother and I don't fuss over him and the children.

I know that he takes care of them and I love him for that. Sometimes, while he is with me she calls his phone, and if I answer, she asks to speak with him and he talks to her. Most times she is calling about the children. If they are ill and she wants money to take them to the doctor, she tells him. I have no problem with that at all. Sometimes he picks up the children and then picks me up and we all go out together.

He told me he used to have a girlfriend and she didn't like when his children's mother called him. She was always quarrelling and saying that the mother wanted him back. I know that his babymother has a boyfriend. Sometimes when the children are with us, she is out with him.

This man is assisting me to go to school. I do not want to lose him. He communicates well with me, and he talks to me freely about everything. He doesn't question me about my past. He has very good hygiene. When I am tired, he does not insist that he wants sexual satisfaction. I was not a good cook, but I have learnt to cook. I used to burn water; that was how bad I was at cooking. When I am having a hard time in school, he encourages me to continue.

I have a strong sex drive, but he knows how to cope with me. He has learned how to satisfy me. Before I met this man, my previous boyfriend used to make me cry when we were having sex. My current boyfriend knows how to arouse me and to make me feel satisfied. I am hoping that no other girl will be able to take him away from me. I could see us living together until death.

Although I spend time with him at his house, I have not totally moved in with him. But I do go to his house to clean and wash his clothes. He gives me money every week. He does not like going out very much, but he allows me to go wherever I want to go. I don't want to get pregnant, so he always uses protection. I would like to get married when I am 23.

A.H.

Dear A.H.,

You are an intelligent girl. You are not jealous and foolish. You know that this man has fathered children and that the mother of these children will need to talk to him occasionally, so you are not upset when she calls.

It seems to me that you have found a good man. Good men assist women, and he is assisting you to go to school. Do your very best in school; don't be a time waster. He should make a good husband, and you should be a good wife to him when the time comes.

It is not always easy for a man to find a good wife. It is not difficult for a man to find a woman, but it is difficult for him to find a wife. No wonder the Bible says, " He that findeth a wife findeth a good thing." So stay with this man. Your cooking will improve. Don't be afraid that other girls will take him away from you.

Pastor