Don’t trust these women with my husband

Dear Pastor,

Please accept greetings for yourself and your family. I am writing to you from Florida. I read your column every day. You can call me a fan of yours. I am a Jamaican, but I am married to an America. He is a very good man. He does not give me any trouble. Some of my Jamaican friends have told me that he does not behave as an American man, because many American men are controlling. My husband is not controlling. I am free to go anywhere I want. He does not want me to stay out very late, but I can go anywhere with my friends. He helps me to do the cooking, but he does not clean. He said that is my job.

We do not have children together. The doctor said that he will not be able to impregnate me. That is the only thing that makes me sad in our relationship. I am 40 years old and he is 45. I have one daughter. He has accepted her as his child and she loves him so much. I would have loved to become pregnant for him, but I have to be satisfied with what I have. He does not talk too much. He does not waste his money, either. We live in a nice home in a beautiful neighbourhood.

When my girlfriends tell me how my husband is a nice man, I pinch myself, and I tell them to take their eyes off him. I do not even trust my best friend with him, because some of these women like to take away other women's husbands. One day I asked my husband if he would get involved with any of my girlfriends. He answered by saying that if any of them threw themselves at him, he may respond. I told him I did not expect that answer. I thought he would have said no he wouldn't. So I know that as a man, he would take on any girl who would want to test him. So, I am not taking chances with any of these girls with my husband.

My daughter is 15 years old and she is planning to be a dentist. My husband has already assured her that he will assist her when the time comes for her to go to university. Keep up the good work, Pastor, and take care of yourself.

K.A.

Dear K.A.,

Your husband told you the truth; therefore you would be a fool to behave as if you are a careless woman.

You should protect your marriage by not putting 'butter in puss mouth'. You are fortunate to have a good husband. He treats you well and he helps you, even to do your housework, so to speak. Continue to love and cherish him. Although he is not able to get you pregnant, he has already accepted your daughter as his own, and he has given her the assurance that he will assist her in going to university. What else can you really want from your man?

Take good care of each other, and don't allow your girlfriends to get very close to your husband.

Pastor