Partner speaks foreign languages as she climaxes

Dear Pastor,

Greetings to you. I am 30 years old and I am having a relationship with an older woman. I like her very much, but sometimes I am scared to make love to her, because she tends to speak in foreign languages whenever she is enjoying herself.

When it first happened, I thought she was speaking in tongues, but I soon realised that that was not the case. She is not a church woman. Whenever she is climaxing, she tends to grab my back and sink her fingernails into my flesh. Afterwards, she would treat the wound by washing my back with warm water and apply olive oil to the area. I asked her why she has to behave like that and she told me that I am the one to be blamed.

There have been times when I slap her when she is speaking foreign languages, hoping that she would stop. However, it has never worked.

We have tenants one the small side of our house -- two young ladies -- and they have heard her behave in a very bad way. I told her that she should try and quiet down when we are making love because the girls heard her, but she said she would prefer to give them notice to leave, because they should mind their own business.

I feel scared staying with her, so I am wondering if you can give me some advice. I don't want to leave this woman. I had a younger woman in my life once and all she wanted was my money. This older woman has treated me as her own son. My clothes are ironed and washed, and the house is always clean. She doesn't have children. She is working with government. I do not have a car, but she has one. I can use it to go anywhere. She said that I am hiding her because she wants to meet my relatives and I am not taking her to meet them. My parents and my siblings are in rural Jamaica. The reason I have not taken her to meet them is they would question how come I am with this older woman, because she looks her age and she is very fat.

Right now my back is very sore. I don't know what to do. So Pastor, as a counsellor, please give me your advice.

L

Dear L.,

You may have to cut this lady's fingernails very low. And perhaps what I am about to say may sound very stupid, but you may have to also encourage her to wear gloves during the act. I have never heard a man requiring his woman to wear gloves, but that is what came to mind, if you want to prevent this woman from digging out your back.

I think this woman is going to say that the sex is so sweet that she can't avoid reacting that way.

You say this woman is a much older woman than you, so you have been reluctant in taking her to rural Jamaica to meet with your relatives. You will not be able to keep her away from meeting your relatives forever. So, please, make up your mind and take her to meet them.

This woman will eventually find out that you are using her. It is not right for you to use anybody. Please tell this woman to tone down and to control herself when both of you are having fun time.

Pastor