Think my girlfriend has another man

Dear Pastor,

I am writing to you for some advice. I have a girlfriend and our relationship was going well.

But now, it is turning sour since she got a job and doesn't have to rely on me for money. Before she got a job, she used to call on me for everything and I didn't have any problem in meeting her needs, because she was meeting mine.

She asked for my password for my phone and I gave it to her, because I had nothing to hide. I asked her for her password for her phone and she refused to give me. She told me that I did not need her password and should respect her privacy. So I changed my password and she was unable to get into my phone. Then she started to accuse me of having another girlfriend, which I did not have.

I do not know how she got into my phone, but she did, and I was very upset. Why was she so eager to know my password but deny me her password? I believe that my girlfriend is seeing someone else. Don't you think that she is hiding something from me? I have put another password on my phone and I gave it to her. I told her that she can read all my messages. When I did so, I thought she would have given me hers, but she hasn't.

Do you think she has something to hide? Does she have another man? Should I be concerned about what she is doing? Please tell me how you see it.

Anonymous

Dear Writer,

This young woman told you that she wants her privacy. She does not want you to have the password for her phone. Why don't you leave her alone? You don't have to know who is calling her and who she is calling. Allow the woman to have her privacy.

So many persons insist that they should have their spouse's passwords, and they are eager to search their phones.

You don't have to do what everybody is doing. I am not going to judge your woman or condemn her, because she wants to enjoy her privacy. If she has another man in her life, you will eventually find out. That's the way I see it.

Pastor