My husband knows how to get me hot

Dear Pastor,

I am 30 and I am a Christian. My husband is also a Christian, but he is not a dedicated one. I met my husband two years ago and we started to go together.

From the time we started to go together, my husband wanted to have sex with me. At one stage of our relationship, I suspected that he was seeing another woman. I asked him and he admitted that there were a couple of times that he jumped the fence and had sex with this woman.

I considered leaving him, but I talked to an old lady in my church and she said I should remember that this man had not been a Christian for a long time, and he was wild. She suggested that we should get married soon. I listened to her and thought that it made sense. I could not discuss this matter with my mother. I was not a virgin, but all these years my mother thought I was. I had sex three times with different guys before I got married. But when I got married, it was like I was a virgin. I did not climax until I had sex for a while. My husband taught me to stimulate myself; and there were times when we were in bed in the nude and he would just play with me, without inserting his penis in me, and I learned to have an orgasm.

To be very frank with you, when my husband stimulated me, I enjoyed it much more than when he penetrated me. I was fully satisfied. Now when my husband is away, I know what to do and where on my body I should touch; and I also look forward to him coming home. He has also bought books for both of us to read.

I am now three months' pregnant, but I wish that I did not get pregnant so soon after our wedding. I would like to have two children. Continue to teach young women that one should learn to pleasure herself and not punish herself because of what her church may teach.

C.W.

Dear C.W.,

You have not left me much room to comment. What you have done is to tell me how much you are enjoying your husband and how good your husband has been to you.

Some folks will never accept what you have written as normal. But I want to tell you, what you do in your bedroom with your husband is nobody's business, unless of course you are doing something that the Bible condemns.

I am glad that you have got pregnant. You wouldn't want to have a child when you are advanced in age. After you have had your baby, you can resume the type of pleasure you enjoy so much. I wish your husband and you the very best for the future.

Pastor