This woman treats me like an ATM

Dear Pastor,

I hope you are doing well. I have read all the columns you have ever posted in your lifetime. I left Jamaica to live in the USA three years ago.

I was married, but unfortunately the relationship didn't last because American women are crazy and controlling. I need your help pertaining to a relationship with a woman I am seeing.

She has had five miscarriages and she blames me for every pregnancy she has lost. I have supported her financially more than an ordinary guy would. Both of us are 27. We do not communicate very much because I do not like to call or text her. I am also focused on making my mother live an excellent life that she deserves.

I only hear from this woman when things are going bad for her. When she is happy, she doesn't communicate with me. I rented a place in the state I am living in and I told her to move and come and live with me, but she refused. We are living many miles away from each other. Her father and all her friends hate me, because she has not told them the truth. She gets upset whenever I tell her the truth.

I told her that I know she has left me mentally, but I think because she knows what I can do for her, she has not totally left. Sometimes I don't hear from her for three days, then she makes up a story and behaves as if I am not paying any attention. Her phone is always on silent. Whenever we are talking, she tells me that her father is trying to reach her, so she hangs up. She only talks to me about her bills. She doesn't ask me if I am having a good day or if I have had anything to eat.

I have many things to say but I may contradict myself if I go into details, because these things make me feel emotional. And in these modern days, men are not supposed to show their emotions.

D.M.

Dear D.M.,

It is time for you to cut all ties with this woman. She has been making a fool out of you. It is time to find another woman who is stable, and one with whom you can relate intelligently.

Why can't you cut all ties with this woman? You know that the only thing she wants from you is money. You have allowed this woman to use you for a long time. She doesn't see you as an intelligent man. She sees you as an idiot. You have tried your best to help her. But she needs to be made aware that she should help herself.

I need to correct you on an assertion you have made. You seem to believe that all American women are just like this woman. It is unfortunate that that is what you believe. So I am begging you, please, change that attitude towards all American women. You met this unstable and uncaring woman and you are judging all the women by her standard. That is unfair, so I repeat, change your attitude. Move on young man, move on.

Pastor