Can’t stop sleeping with this married man

Dear Pastor,

I hope all is well with you. I am in my mid-40s. I am having a sexual relationship with a married man. The relationship has been going on for just over a year. He is a mean and jealous man. I work and try to take care of myself but sometimes I need a little help. But I can't turn to him for any help; I have to do everything for myself.

I used to love him when we first met, but everything has changed. When we first met, I was in a very lonely place and he swept me off my feet. He told me that he loved me, but now he does not behave as if he even likes me. He is a wild married man. We don't use any protection when we are having sex. I don't trust him. All he does is lie to me again and again. I want to end this relationship with him, but each time I try to leave him, I keep calling him back to me.

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Dear Writer,

I believe what you are trying to say is that you need more financial assistance from this man. You are getting some money from him but it is not sufficient. You know this relationship is not going anywhere, but you keep calling this man back because either the sex you are having with him is sweet, or you need the little financial help that you are getting from him.

I do believe that my assessment of the situation is quite correct.

Pastor