Babymother trying to get me back

Dear Pastor,

I am the first son of my father and the second child of my mother. Between my mother and my father, there are three of us children. My father and mother showed us much love. We have never heard them quarrel. My mother did not complain about anything. She was very quiet and contented. She was a seamstress, and she made uniforms for children and earned her own money. My father was a farmer and he, too, worked very hard. My father warned me about women. He said I should build a house on a plot of land his father gave to him.

When I was 23 years old, I had someone draw a plan for me to put a three-bedroom house on the land. By that time I had a babymother, who is a teacher. She told me that she did not want me to build a house on that plot of land because she did not like the area. I told her we will have more space if we were to build on the plot of land my father gave me. She then said that we will have to cut a proper road because the road was not good. I decided that I would build the house without her blessing.

My father tried to convince her that I was doing the right thing. We were not living together, but she started to pull away from me. She got so busy and I suspected that she was seeing another man. I was right. After the house was built, she tried to get back to me, but I told her that I was not interested in her any more.

I am now living at the house and I am planning to marry another woman who works with my mother. I take care of my son.

My child's mother has been telling people that my mother is the one who caused me to turn my back on her. I don't want her any more in my life. She is disrespectful to my mother, and disrespectful to me.

S.G

Dear S.G.,

The teacher thinks that you don't have any ambition, because instead of you trying to build a house on the main, so to speak, you were building it in an area that is not well-developed. As a teacher, she felt she was stepping down. Now that you have another woman and have abandoned her, she wants you back.

I don't doubt that your parents have influenced you to end the relationship with the teacher and to develop one with a girl who is humble and working with your mother. Your child's mother now wants you back. Frankly speaking, I would not advise you to do so. You are not going to be happy with the teacher; she is not humble and she is not smart. Make sure that you support the child that both of you have together.

Pastor