I regret getting this woman pregnant

Dear Pastor,

I am a 31-year-old man and I am having a challenge in my life. I call it a challenge because I have put myself into this situation, and I was warned not to get involved with this girl.

This girl had a man, and this man was also my friend. He used to tell me how wicked she was, and I listened; but when they broke up I got involved with her. When he heard that the girl and I became friends, he called me a traitor, and told me that I would regret going with her. I told myself that I was going to leave her, but by that time I had got her pregnant. He asked me how I knew that she was carrying my baby and when I counted the days and the weeks, I decided that I couldn't get out of it, so we have been going on.

I give this woman money every week and she is not satisfied. What I found out also is that although she is pregnant, she is having sex with other men in the community. I cannot stand it. Right now, she is six months pregnant, and I don't want this child to have my name. I told her to give up the child for adoption, but she is not in favour of that. I know it is money she wants from me.

I have another woman and she has two children for me. She doesn't pressure me at all for money. I try to give her money every other week. This one who is pregnant now is an embarrassment to me and to my family members. She does not even dress properly on the road. Is there any way I can get her to give up this child for adoption? I know the child is mine. I made a big mistake because I did not listen.

This girl believes in making mischief. My children's mother hasn't done anything to her, but she called her and told her that she was pregnant with my child, and she was going to put me before the court "if I didn't mind my pickney", but I can't mind a child I don't want. So, give me your advice.

C.M.

Dear C.M.,

I am not a lawyer, but I know that a man who has a child with a woman should really do his best to support that child.

If he feels that the woman is not capable of supporting the child, he should discuss that with an attorney and take the matter to court. Every child needs his or her father, and his or her mother. But if the mother is not capable of supporting the child, something must be done. The father, at least in my opinion, should take that child. But would this woman give the child to you? It appears that what the woman wants is money from you. I think that is what you are saying. So, discuss that with a lawyer. I wish you well.

Pastor