Thinking about going with a younger woman

Dear Pastor,

I am in my early 40s and I have been married twice. My first wife died after a short illness. I told myself that I would not marry again because nobody could take the place of my wife. But after getting over the death of my wife, I found it difficult to function without a woman.

So I married for the second time, but we got a divorce. I always had someone doing things for me. I found that women were rushing me and throwing themselves at me. When I say throwing themselves, Pastor, I mean literally. So that is why I got married again.

One of the women I respected highly at my church made me dinner and brought it, and while she was here, she constantly exposed herself to me. A couple of times I told her to sit properly. She asked me what was wrong with me and if I did not have any use. This woman was rushing me for sex. I realised that I had the wrong woman in my house. So when she asked me whether she could come back and spend some time with me, I told her no, I was taking time to fast. She said that after I finished my fasting, I should call her. I never did.

Now I am seeing a woman who was the friend of my wife, but she is much younger than I am. She says that she loves me. She is well built and she is strong. I know I can manage, but I hear people on your show advising older men not to have anything to do with women who are much younger than they are.

This young woman likes to tease me, but we have not gone further than kissing each other. When she kisses me, I am aroused, but I control myself. Do you think that she is too young for me? I want to date her, but I need your advice.

L.R.

Dear L.R.,

I am sorry to hear that your former wife passed on. I want to commend you for ending the brief relationship with the other woman who seemed to be in such a hurry to get you to go to bed with her. When it comes to sex, some women behave as if they are more thirsty to do so than men. They are so eager to curse the men if the men show any resistance. I am sure you enjoyed her food, but she should have learned to control herself. You knew how to control yourself so she should have learned how to do it too. You were correct in not allowing her to come back to see you.

At present, you are dealing with a much younger woman; go easy. If you believe that you love her, you can take her out on dates, but don't rush into any commitment with her. I wish you well in this relationship. You know that you feel for a woman, but go easy. I wish you well.

Pastor