Think my man fathered another child

Dear Pastor,

I have been in a relationship since November 2020. At the time when we met, my partner told me that he had two daughters.

Last September, he told me that there is a possibility that he may have a son, as he was playing around with a woman who lived with her partner and she got pregnant. So, there is a possibility that the son she has may be his. Around February of this year, he told me that a friend of his told him that the child is his.

I AM AFRAID

Recently, the child became ill and was admitted to the hospital. He went the same day to visit the child and he did so a couple of times after. I am very stressed and scared as I love this man and I am also afraid of what might happen. He says he loves me and will stay true to me, but I know that a child can rekindle a bond between both parents.

The mother of the child texted him after 10 p.m. one night to ask him if he could spend some time with the child the following day. The child is 13 months old. I am really depressed and stressed over the situation. I didn't expect this to be happening. What should I do? How can I know whether they are still playing around? Whenever I ask him questions about the woman and himself, he tells me that he does not want to talk about his past. Usually, he would reason with me and tell me what is happening, but now he has become very secretive and he tells unnecessary lies.

N.M.

Dear N.M.,

This man has told you that he is probably the father of this baby boy. You need not be stressed over this matter. Insist on a DNA test. Insist that the mother of the child agrees to do DNA tests to prove who the biological father is. And if the test shows that this man is the child's father, encourage him to support the child. You need not worry about him rekindling the relationship with the child's mother. That does not have to happen. If he is the father of the child, he can take care of him and not be sexually involved with the mother.

I hope that this young man is talking the truth. If you have good reason to believe that you can't trust him, end the relationship with him and move on. Don't waste your time with him.

Pastor