I never thought that I would love again

Dear Pastor,

I have been reading your column since I was a young girl. I am now in my 40s. I was married but I lost my husband in a car collision. I used to think about him every day but, now that my two children have grown and have their own children, it is easier for me to deal with my problems.

I am now seeing a man. He is in his 50s. I never thought that I would love again. But I have started to go out on dates and this man, who is divorced, he has been teaching me new things. It is as if I have found new love.

My children, who are grown men, adore him, and you know that boys do not like any and every man to show interest in their mother. When I introduced them to this man, they asked him hard questions, and he assured them that he meant well. Pastor, I don’t need financial help from this man. He has his house and I have my house, which is fully paid for. I am still working and this man knows that all that I own will go to my children. He is aware that, if we were to get married, we will have to sign a prenuptial agreement.

The only problem that I am having with this relationship is that this man attends a Saturday church and I attend a Sunday church. He would like me to join his church, and I do not see myself doing so.

Can you help me to solve this problem?

Anonymous

Dear Writer,

I am glad that you have found new love, but I am afraid that you will have to make your own decision when it comes to this man and his desire for you to become a part of the church that he attends.

In coming to the decision, ask yourself whether he would be willing to become a part of your church?

Both of you would have to work this matter out on your own.

I wish you well.

Pastor