Having an affair with my uncle for years

Dear Pastor,

I am writing to you with a headache that won't go away because I am thinking too much.

I was not aware that I had an uncle by my father's side until my mother told me she was sending me to him. I went to meet him at his workplace. I walked in and sat down and a man, whose office was upstairs, came to me smiling. I was told to go upstairs to meet my uncle, and then I saw that it was the same man who was smiling at me. He was very friendly with me from the moment he met me. I was happy I had an uncle by my father's side.

One day I was travelling with him in his car and he pushed his hand under my skirt, kissed me and told me to remain calm. He also told me that he loves me. I was 16 years old at the time. I kept what happened as a secret between us. We started an affair that went on until I became an adult and he got married. He was still seeing me even though he was married. I told him that I wanted to have more from the relationship because we had been having this affair for years, and he was always the one who had to hide to see me.

I am in love with him, but I hate him at the same time. I can't explain it but I am so attached to him; I can't let him go.

Anonymous

Dear Writer,

You have already told this man that you want more out of the relationship and he has to be hiding to see you because he is your uncle, and he is married.

You know that it is not right for both of you to be carrying on an affair, but at the same time, you do not want to end the relationship with him. Perhaps this man has been supporting you fully and it is not a love-hate relationship. It seems to me that you do not want to leave this man and that is why you say that you love him, even though you also hate him. Perhaps you are thinking that you are going to be losing a lot.

Both of you should go your separate ways. The relationship is not healthy. There is no future here for you. So tell your uncle that you are begging him to leave you alone so that you may have peace of mind, because at present, you are a very unhappy woman. I hope your uncle would understand and release you, so that your conscience can be set free.

Please let me hear from you again.

Pastor