Too tired to make love with my husband

Dear Pastor,

I am 30 years old and I am married. Sometimes I work long hours at nights and by the time I get home, I am very tired.

I find that it is hard to keep up with sex and to fully satisfy my husband. He does not always fuss, but I often know when he would love for us to spend a little longer time enjoying each other. He has even talked with me about possibly getting off the night shift. I make more money on this shift, but I am very tired at times.

Some of my friends told me that they have the perfect answer for their husbands. An older lady told me that she knows the art of making her husband feel that she has come to orgasm, and he has never questioned her about it. She fakes orgasms regularly. She is so good at it that she falls asleep soon after she has faked it. She does so with heavy breathing and the squeezing of her thighs.

N.T.

Dear N.T.,

I would not encourage any woman to fake her orgasms. To do so means that you are missing out on the beauty of lovemaking.

You should try your best to learn the heart of making love. Try to get as much rest in the night, and in the wee hours of the morning, your husband and you should try to make love to each other. I will be praying for you.

Pastor