Can’t get enough of the older women

Dear Pastor,

I am in my mid-20s and I find myself liking older women.

One of them is the mother of my high school classmate. She was always inviting me to her house. She cooked enough for me to have. My mother was always asking me why is it that I have to be at that woman’s house. She could play the piano, so she told my mother that she would teach me. This woman was the first to ever give me a tongue kiss. I was at the piano and she came from behind, tilted my head and kissed me. I could not believe it, but it did not stop there. She sat on the stool and kissed me repeatedly.

When I went home, my mother asked me why I had lipstick on my lips and my shirt collar. I did not know what to say. My mother said “Mind you nuh!” My friend’s mother was the first woman I had sex with. This woman and I were alone and she asked me if I ever had sex and I told her no. She said she would like us to do it. I stopped going to the house, but she kept calling me. She was always travelling and she brought lovely colognes for me whenever she went to America. This woman took my virginity.

My mother suspected that I was having sex with her, she asked me one day and I denied it. We continued to have sex for a long time until I got a scholarship to study abroad. This woman cried when I was leaving. I got myself a girlfriend in America, but I kept comparing her with this older woman. I eventually got married and my wife is 10 years older than I am. There is something sweet about an older woman. I hope you won’t condemn me for speaking my mind.

R.

Dear R.,

I am not surprised to hear that this older woman is the one who approached you and offered you sex.

I have been writing this column for many years and many young men have told me that it was their parents’ helpers who had sex with them for the first time, and many times these affairs go on for a very long time.

This woman saw you and loved you; she did not want an older man. They call these women cougars. Perhaps her son was aware that his mother loved you, but he could not prevent her from doing so. I hope that now that you have got married to a much older woman, you would be happy.

Pastor