Husband pressuring me for a threesome

Dear Pastor,

I am a 30-year-old married woman, and I have a story to tell you.

I have three children. My husband and I love each other. I used to believe that he truly loved me until he suggested that I should get one of my girlfriends for us to do a threesome because he wanted us to spice up our marriage. I told him that he shouldn’t come to me with that. I was not going to invite any woman into our bed. I asked him if he would agree for me to invite another man into our bed and he told me I would have to be mad.

In January, my husband approached me with the same thing when I asked him what he wanted for his birthday. He said he wanted a young chick in our bed, so that we can have a threesome. Of course I did not agree. I asked a couple of the girls who work in the office with me if they ever had a threesome and they all said no. I told them what my husband was asking me to do and my best friend told me that any day I agree to have a threesome, I would lose my husband to the girl I invited.

Why is it that these men cannot be satisfied? I take care of myself. There is no position that I have not done with my husband. So what more does he need? I am worried. I just feel that my husband is going astray. I told him if he wants to go, he can go, but he should not bring any girl into our house.

R.

Dear R.,

One of your girlfriends told you that the day you invite another girl to have sex with your husband and yourself, that would be the end of your marriage.

A married woman once told me that she gave her husband a ‘special’. He did not expect it, but she got one of her friends to engage in a threesome with them. Her husband was shocked because he did not know that she had planned the special. When it was all over, she said that her husband took over the girl. He would go out and see her and they became lovers. She said to me, “Pastor, I hate the girl.” I asked her why she hated the girl, and she said she thought it would have been a one-time thing, but her husband is now in love with her friend.

I could tell you more stories. Another woman told me that she got a close friend of hers to do a threesome with her man and herself and she had the same experience. When it was all over on that occasion, the girl became involved with her man. On many occasions, unknowing to her, they met and had sex.

I hope that you would stand your ground and continue to say no to your husband.