Don’t trust my husband around any woman

Dear Pastor,

I am going to be 41 in August. My only child is 20 years old. He came into this world by mistake.

His father and I went to the same high school and then university. We always loved each other and we expressed our love for each other. But he was the kind of man who wanted to have his own way at all times.

One night we went out, and while taking me home, he insisted that we should have sex. He was hard as a rock; you know what I mean. I had made the mistake earlier to tell him that I was alone. My parents had gone to a fete and they would be coming home late. It was the biggest mistake that I could have made.

When we got to our house, he told the taxi driver that he could leave, so I did not say anything. He walked in with me and he said 'Well, tonight is our night.' I asked him what he meant; he told me I had to keep my promise. I tried to lie by telling him that I was on my period, but he would not accept that. He told me that he would like to see it and I told him no. I warned him that if he tried to force his way, I was going to make noise, but I did not mean it.

That man forced his way on me, and it was my first time. I had never known a man. I begged and begged, but the man did not stop. We had sex, but during the process, I no longer felt pain.

He got me pregnant even though he told me that nothing would happen.

CHEATING ABROAD

I got pregnant with my son and I have not had another child. I have always told my son that he is special, but I have never explained to him why I consider him to be. His father and I graduated from university at the same time. He went abroad and did postgrad work, but I refuse to leave my parents. I know that my husband cheated when he went abroad. He has admitted it, but I have forgiven him because I know that he loves sex and we were not together for six months.

One day I asked him to tell me the truth and he said that I know the truth already, so I should leave him alone. I have a girlfriend who loves my husband, and for that reason, I don't allow her to come and spend any time in this house. I have caught her looking at my husband's front part many times. She is the type of woman who is not embarrassed when you talk to her about her behaviour. I do not even trust my nieces to be around my husband.

F.M.

Dear F.M.,

I am glad that you have a happy family. You are careful because you know that anything can happen between your husband and another woman.

Your husband is very sharp and he will use the rod that he is carrying in his pants. You cannot put butter in puss mouth. You don't have to tell your son where and on what occasion his father and you had sexual intercourse, but you can always give thanks for him. It is time for you to stop pressuring your husband to tell you whether he was faithful to you when he was in America for six months.

I wish everybody in the family well. Not all men can be trusted and a woman should not trust all her girlfriends with her husband.

Pastor