My marriage is about to crash

Dear Pastor,

I am 45 years old and my wife says that I am very boring. She always wants to go out, but I am not eager to leave the house.

I see signs in the clouds that my marriage is about to crash. My wife is 34 years old. I do not stop her from going anywhere. I told her she can always go wherever she wants to go. I feel that I have made a mistake by getting married.

Marriage is not for everybody, I know that as a fact. I used to be a happier man when I was single. I am an accountant. My wife says that I am boring, but I am not boring. I always have things to do. If I wanted a woman, I can get a woman, so how could this be a boring life? I have one son, and he is just like me. He goes where he wants to go and I do not stop him. He told me he wanted to be a politician. However, I have not encouraged him to get into politics because he would have to interact with people and he does not have that type of personality.

The type of work that I do, I take great comfort in it. I work with figures and I talk to my figures. I work out my problems and solve my problems without giving anybody any trouble. I will never divorce my wife, but I can feel it in my bones that she wants to leave me. However, I will never divorce her.

What do you think that I can do to make life more comfortable for my wife? Give me some suggestions, please.

S.R.

Dear S.R.,

You have not admitted that your life is boring, but to your wife, it is boring. When last have you taken this woman out? You have not said how long you have been married, but you seem to say that most of your time is spent working.

You enjoy working. But Jesus said to his disciples that they should take breaks. In teaching them to take breaks he said, "Come ye apart and rest awhile."

Recently, on the Dear Pastor Show, I told my listening audience that in making up their plans for the year, they should take vacation. It does not have to be for a week or for two weeks; it could be for short periods, such as three or four days. But time should be taken for rest. One should not continue the same routine every day. A little time to rest is important. A little vacation time is very, very essential.

I repeat, Jesus said, "Come ye apart and rest awhile."

You are going to destroy your relationship if you don't change. Somebody will enjoy all the money that you have earned. Yes, my dear sir, let me state it very plainly to you, soon after you die and your wife has put you away, she is likely to find another man and enjoy some of the money that you have left for her, so get wise. "Come ye apart and rest awhile."

Pastor