I feel trapped in my marriage
Dear Rev Dunbar,
I have been with my husband for 12 years and married 8 years.
We have two children together and lived a very loving and comfortable life. We had a great relationship, as we really loved each other. Then everything changed when his mom died. My husband became cold and distant. There were often bursts of anger and disrespect towards me. We grew apart and we have been separated a year now. Even though we both have been unfaithful, he does not want a divorce. I feel trapped in this miserable marriage and don't know what to do.
Congratulations on the longevity of your relationship. It's very hard to keep it together these days. Many men are very attached to their moms and we hear this being echoed by dancehall artiste, the most recent being with his new single 'Nah Put Gyal Over Mama'. Your husband is no different, he has obviously had a very strong bond with his mom as ought to be and has taken her passing very hard. Some bearing has to be given to the nature of her death and whether he was prepared for it and being unable to do anything to alter the circumstances surrounding her death.
I would suggest you continue to give him your understanding and moral support.