Fiancé wants me out of his life

Dear Pastor,

I have a situation and I don't know how to to get out of it. I have this friend who I've known since we were kids. I did not know her to be a devious person. She was with a guy who seemed to be very genuine, but she wasn't. Eventually, the guy found out and they broke up. She said he beat her up and put her out of the house because she confronted him about his cheating ways. The guy moved on and got married. He and his wife has a child together.

When she found out that he had moved on, she went crazy and tried to break them up. However, she underestimated his wife, as she was no pushover. The wife reported her to the police, and one day she confronted my friend and warned her to stay away from her man.

My friend eventually got involved with a government worker. She didn't even like him, but he had money, so she stayed with him. She got pregnant and thought that her ex would get upset. However, he was unfazed. This caused her to get upset, and so she set out again to try and mess up her ex's life.

NO INTEREST

Her boyfried died in an accident. She said she was happy he passed. Anyway, a couple months ago, her ex came back to the area he used to work and she ran into him. They exchanged numbers. She said he broke up with his wife and she was happy. However, she said it was strange that no matter how she tried to get him to have sex with her, he did not show any interest in her. She said she sent him nudes and he acknowledged them, but that was it. She also realized that she couldn't get him on the phone after certain hours at nights, and he refused to hang out with her. He eventually stopped talking to her and blocked her calls. She started to visit his workplace, but he left the job. She also search the various social media platforms, trying to find her ex or his wife so she could start trouble. However, it seems they don't use social media.

Now, let me explain how I got caught in this mess. I am engaged to be married, but my fiance called off our wedding because of this friend. He met her and we hung out a few times. He had a brother who was with my friend. When we went to plan the wedding they all met up, and it was scandalous.

My friend gave my fiance's brother syphilis. He got her pregnant but aborted it because she was dating the same ex she is obsessed with and my fiance's brother at the same time. My friend then told my fiance that her ex and his wife had a business and I ordered the product and wrote a very bad review of it. To be honest, I did so because my friend made it seem like the guy and his wife had wronged her. She told me the woman took the guy from her, but after the scandal, I realised it was a lie. My fiance is now saying that I'm just like this girl and he can't marry me.

I've worked hard to leave my community. I earned a university degree and I have a job in the public sector. I never knew what my friend was doing. I literally didn't see her in five years until we met up for my wedding planning and hung out a couple of times. I found out so much when the scandal happened. She wanted to get pregnant for her ex, so that it would finally break up his marriage. She even asked someone to attack his wife.

I am now in the middle of this and my life has been ruined. I've lost weight and feeling depressed. My fiance is the best thing that ever happened to me and I really love him; he's a great guy. My fiance asked me to move out of his house. He even took back the car he gave me to drive. I desperately need your advice on what to do.

Desperate Fiance.

Dear Desperate Fiance.,

You have written a very difficult letter to understand. I do not believe you are speaking the absolute truth. If you are speaking the truth, you must be crazy. You should learn to mind your own business. You are not a good friend and you are jealous of this girl you described your friend. You said that she even got pregnant to show her ex that she could get pregnant. You have talked a lot of nonsense in your letter. Something went wrong, but you are not talking the absolute truth.

You seem to know everything bad about the girl you consider to be your friend. No intelligent man should marry you. You need to sit with a psychologist, because I believe that you need psychological help. Keep out of other people's business.

Pastor