Boyfriend cheated with our co-worker

Dear Pastor,

I hope you are doing well. I have a small issue about which I would like your professional opinion. I live with my boyfriend who is 22. We are both university students and we work at a call centre.

My boyfriend is a good guy and he always does his best to ensure that I am doing well. He cheated on me with a colleague from our workplace, and I want to know if I should forgive him or forget about him and move on.

I was working at the call centre before him, and I was the one who helped him to get the job. He started working this January; that was when we moved in together.

FOREWARNING

When he got the job, I begged him not to get involved sexually with a co-worker. I informed him that call centres are known for such relationships. It was in January that he had sex with this woman.

I feel like an idiot. I used his phone to call the woman, and she hung up on me after denying that they had sex.

My boyfriend and I argued about the situation and I slapped him in his face multiple times. He cried and said that he was sorry and that he regretted the act more than anything. The situation is tearing me apart. I feel so hurt and betrayed.

I can't even sleep properly because of this, and it is the first thing on my mind when I get up in the mornings. Every time I look at him, I feel so disappointed.

I don't know if I can ever see him the same way anymore. I want to know if I should forgive him and continue the relationship or move on.

T.

Dear T.,

This is a situation that you would have to decide for yourself. This man is not a saint, and it did not take him long to become sexually involved with one of your co-workers.

But you know exactly what you want to do, so I am not going to make any suggestion as to whether you should stop the relationship or continue. That is totally up to you.

Pastor