This man is going crazy over me

Dear Pastor,

I am 40 years old and I have two children. I was married but my husband and I are divorced. He has supported his children.

This divorce has hurt me because I never intended to get married and then go through a divorce. It has taken a long time for me to get involved with another man. But I went to America to visit one of my sisters and I met a man who says that, from the time he saw me, he fell in love with me.

My sister told me that she knows him well so I should not turn him away. I was in America for two weeks and it was only the last night before I left that I gave him a chance and we had sex. After we did, he begged me to extend my time in America, but I told him I couldn’t. He asked my sister whether he could accompany us to the airport and she told him yes.

In the lobby at the airport, the man kissed me and tears rolled down his cheeks. I could not believe what I was seeing. Now he wants to visit me in Jamaica. But I have told him it is not convenient for him to stay with me. My daughter, who is still living at home, told me that she would go and stay with one of our relatives so he could be with me at the house, but I don’t like that.

He, too, is divorced.

Don’t you think that this man is too much in a hurry to be with me? When he was divorced, he lost everything. His former wife got the house, so he had to start over. He is an American. Please give me your advice.

K.

Dear K.,

Whatever you did to this man or with this man, ‘sweet’ him, so the thought of leaving him and returning to Jamaica brought tears to his eyes.

You are a Jamaican woman, and Jamaican women know how to please men. Well, let me not go further than that. Your sister said he is a good man; she knows him well. However, I would suggest that you tell this man to slow down. You are not running anywhere. Both of you should get to know each other.

Concerning his coming to Jamaica to visit you, I am sure that proper arrangements can be made for that. Make sure you protect yourself. When I say that, I mean you should have this man go to the doctor and take the necessary tests to show that he does not have any disease that he may pass on to you. And you should discuss everything with your children. They are not little children, they are adults.

I wish you well. But, I give you a word of caution – be careful.

Pastor