Ex wants me to leave my husband

Dear Pastor,

I always read your column, and now I need your advice. I am 26 years old. I am in a pickle. I had a boyfriend when I was 17 years old. We remained friends until he went away to study. He spent three years abroad.

During that time, I got married because we lost contact with each other. Since he has been back, he came to see me and my love for him has been kindled again.

One day we decided that we would just go out to a certain place; I had no intention of misbehaving with him. We stopped and bought jerked pork and we talked about old times, and even about the first time we made love.

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This man remembered everything. We held each other and kissed and I had to remind him that I was married. He got married also, but his marriage did not last.

I told him that I did not want to be like him. I asked him what caused his marriage to break up and he said his wife was too jealous, he could not even talk to his female cousins in the US.

One night his aunt called him and his wife answered the phone, but she did not realise that it was his aunt. She cursed and told his aunt not to call back the house.

Another time she even threatened to call the police on him because, during a dispute, she lunged at him and he pushed her ,and she fell. So now they are divorced.

My husband and I have one child. My ex says that he does not have any. Since he has gone back to the US, he has called me many times begging me to leave my husband.

He said he would marry me and take me to the US. To be truthful, Pastor, I love him; I really do. Tell me how you see this relationship.

Y.T.

Dear Y.T.,

I think you are crazy. You are happily married, but your former boyfriend came back to Jamaica and took you out and filled your head with nonsense. You don't know if he was speaking the truth, but you are allowing yourself to be carried away.

You are even considering whether you should leave your husband and get involved with this man again. It is said that 'ole fiyah tick easy fi ketch'. You are going to get into serious trouble if you encourage this man in your life.

You need to stop corresponding with this man. Tell him you made a mistake by going out with him and kissing him, and that you are happy with the husband you have.

Pastor