Boyfriend pressuring me to get pregnant

Dear Pastor,

I am in a committed relationship but I am not yet ready to be married. I am 28 years old and my boyfriend is 31 years old. He is ready to get married. He has fathered two children with two different women. He said he wants one more child but I am not ready to settle down with him. I don't have any other boyfriend. I have a great figure and I know that if I get pregnant, that will spoil my figure. Recently my boyfriend has been warning me that if I don't allow him to get me pregnant, he will find another girl and get her pregnant and marry her. I am only writing to you because I want you to publish my letter and your answer so he can see that I am serious. I love my boyfriend's two children but I can't see myself breastfeeding and changing diapers. Maybe I will change but not right now. Every time he threatens me about leaving me for another woman, I tell him that if he does that, he would have to give me back my car and all the money I have loaned him. I know he does not have any money so I have him tied to me. I am committed to him but I don't want to get married and have children.

F.P.

Dear F.P.,

You talk like a foolish woman. You are immature and as some men would describe you, 'you are not wife material'. I am not saying that you should be forced into marriage, but if motherhood is not in your mind at all, your boyfriend who wants to get married and to father a child from you should leave you, because you are a time waster. You are obsessed with your figure that you seem to believe will last forever. Imagine that you look at breastfeeding as disdain. You don't know better. A good woman looks forward to nurturing and breastfeeding her baby and she takes pleasure in bathing her child and changing the diapers. You want this man to see my reply to your letter. I will strongly suggest to him that he should get you out of his mind because you are not a good woman. You should not use the money that you have loaned to your boyfriend as a means of trying to get him to stay with you in spite of your foolish attitude. If your boyfriend is wise, he would make arrangements to repay you and he should give up the car you gave him. These two things you have raised should not be mentioned at all. I repeat, you are not a good woman.

Pastor