My woman giving me all types of ‘bun’

Dear Pastor,

Where must I start? Well, I have been with a woman for about 20 years. We have been on-and-off in the relationship. We have five children. I work in the USA. I have been travelling for many years. One day she left me in the house and was away for about 45 minutes. She told me where she was going. I went to where she was supposed to be and I saw her making out with another man. I called out to her. She asked me if I wanted to come in and I walked away and asked myself, 'is this girl for real?' I held it down for a couple of months. I work late and come home early in the morning. When I get home, she is not at home sometimes. One time she told me that she was at the station with her other man. I went back to America and now she has admitted that she had slept with more than four other guys in the community. She is in a relationship with one of her neighbours. Every time I see these guys, I hold down my head because I know I am a fool and I love her. What should I do?

T.H.

Dear T.H.,

This woman has admitted to you that she has had sexual intercourse with different men. That is her way of telling you she is not interested in you anymore. The 20-year relationship has come to an end. She has disgraced herself. She doesn't care at all. The question is what about the children? Are you in any position to take this matter to court and to apply for custody of the children? If she is sleeping out at nights, she does not have any time to watch over these children and you are not always there. I am wondering if you have siblings who can assist you with these children, because evidently this woman doesn't care about them. Talk to relatives and let them assist you. But I cannot encourage you to continue to be in a relationship with this woman. She is an embarrassment to you and to herself. You need a fresh start.

Pastor