Girlfriend holds school bus encounter over my head

April 07, 2021

Dear Pastor,

I am a 19-year-old young man and I am always around girls. They say I am handsome and that I dress well. I had my first sexual encounter when I was 15 years of age. The young lady was 16. It happened on the school bus. The girls were sitting on the boys and carrying on. When this girl started to be on me I told her no, but she cursed me and told me I didn't have any sense and to look at the other students were having a good time.

The driver was not paying any attention to us. We were there for a long time until I realised that I was in her. Pastor, this girl and I are still having sex but every time we have sex, I use a condom. She wants to study medicine and she is always threatening me and telling me that what started with the both of us in the bus has tied us together.

My parents know her and her parents know me. Her father has money, so she takes money from him and gives to me. She has a way of searching my phone whenever we meet. I have never had sex with any other girl and my love for her has grown very strong.

What should I do?

D.

Dear D.,

Some young girls are very brave. Some young women have introduced sex to guys and guys who were reluctant in responding are called fools, etc. The drivers of these buses know what is going on but it is not their business.

At least this girl and you are still together and perhaps may have a future together. You are old enough to know not to have unprotected sex with her because by doing so, you will get her pregnant. You know she won't stop studying to be a medical doctor. You have not said what you want to be but remember, if you do not have a good profession, she will eventually leave you. I wish you all the best and take care of your future.

Pastor

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