Lover wants me to kick my daughter out

Dear Pastor,

I am a Jamaican but I have lived in the USA since I was a teenager. I have been married twice, but that is one area in which I have not been successful.

I have never had a woman in my life who hasn't cheated on me. But I have been very good to women; they all have said that to me. I have four children and two of them are married. I will do anything for my children. I have my own house. I was able to save that from my last divorce. One of my daughters and I are living in this house. I am in love with another woman but she does not like my daughter. She pretended at first that she loved my daughter but now that she has seen how close me and my daughter are, she says it is time for my daughter to leave. My daughter is 19 years old and right now she is the only one of my children I can call on to help me, so I don't intend to let her go. My daughter has a boyfriend and he visits her here. I suspect that they have had sex, but I have never seen them.

Last Thanksgiving my daughter and her boyfriend and this woman and I were having dinner and this woman shocked me by asking my daughter when she planned to leave. My daughter turned to me and said, 'Dad do you want me to leave?' and I said to her 'Not at all. You can stay at the house as long as you want'. My woman said I was talking like a Jamaican because when a girl becomes of age and has a boyfriend, she should go on her own. That night she told me it was either my daughter or her. After we went to bed she turned her back on me and she has not stopped telling me that I have to make up my mind. My friends have told me that I should draw closer to my daughter because this woman only wants what I have. So I told my daughter that even if she gets married, she and her husband should stay here with me.

O.T.

Dear O.T.,

You have had two failed marriages and these women are gone. You have four children and only one is with you at your house. Both of you have a very good relationship and you should cherish that. You should not let a woman come in and tell you what to do or advise you to tell your daughter to go. That is not good and the very first time she said that to you, you should have put her in her place. Any Jamaican man who listens to any woman to put out his own daughter is not an intelligent man. Your daughter is not being disrespectful to you. She is looking out for your best interests. She loves you and you will always be her daddy. I am telling you to end the relationship. She knows how you feel about your daughter. She might pretend that she likes her, but it will always be in her mind that your daughter should not be living in the house with the both of you. She wants a man she can push around and she wants a man she can tell what to do. Don't marry this woman. She is trouble. Don't trust her. Let me hear from you again.

Pastor