Boss’ son may have got me pregnant

Dear Pastor,

I am 21 years old and I have a problem with my former employer's son. When I came to work with his father, I saw that he took a liking to me and I liked him too.

But at the same time I had a boyfriend and I was living with him. He used to always warn me about my boss' son. I use to do banking for the company so he would take me to the bank and we would have time to talk. I told him everything about my boyfriend and he told me that he would take better care of me than my boyfriend would. My boyfriend became suspicious because he said that, if nothing was going on between us, I wouldn't talk so much about him. One day, my boss asked me if I liked his son and I told him yes. He said he could not stop both of us liking each other but he was always against office romances.

ALONE AT WORK

One Friday, we closed the office early because of the death of a staff member. The boss' son told me that I did not have to leave and that I could stay with him. By 2 p.m., everybody was gone.

I stayed with him and we were there alone. We started to play around and finally I gave in and had sex with him. I have found myself pregnant. I am worried because I do not believe that it is my boyfriend who got me pregnant. I told my boyfriend that I am pregnant and he did not question me about anything. But, what if he is not the one who got me pregnant? What am I going to do? When I had sex with my boss' son, it was unprotected sex. I cannot sleep well. What should I do, Pastor?

M.J.

Dear M.J.,

I have to tell you that you are not a very smart girl. You are old enough to realise that men are always seeking women. I am assuming that you are an attractive girl and you are working in a company with a young man whose father is your boss. You knew from the very start that he liked you. His father even asked you whether you both liked each other and he warned you and told you he did not like office romances. Therefore, you should have been on your guard.

On that evening when everyone was sent home, you should have gone home too. The moment the young man told you that you could stay with him, he should have told you that it was the opportunity for him to get under your skirt. So you should not have stayed.

A 21-year-old woman should be very smart. You let your guard down and had unprotected sex with this young man. You are pregnant and fretting that the child you are carrying might not be for your boyfriend. But a DNA test can clear up any doubt. A DNA test cannot lie. So get one done as soon as possible and I wish you every success. I would hate to know that you have given up a good relationship with your boyfriend because of your own carelessness. Your boss may not want you as a daughter-in-law, but time will tell.

Pastor