Husband gave me bun because I’m too chubby

Dear Pastor,

I have been married for five and a half years and I have two children with my husband. I used to tell my friends that I had a perfect relationship and that my husband would never leave me, because I was doing everything right. I cook, clean and wash and he comes home in time. I am working and he is working. With the help of my parents, we purchased our home. We love our children. Every weekend, my husband likes to cook but I am now having a problem and it is destroying our marriage. My husband has a girlfriend and this woman has told other women that this man is too good for me. Pastor, it is not a joke. She was able to say where my husband took her and described my husband's body. My husband admitted that he had an affair. He said he just wanted something new and that I had become careless with my weight. Pastor, I have not put on more than 20 pounds. This girl is not much slimmer than I am. So what does my husband's girlfriend have that I don't? What is he looking for? I am so upset. My husband and I are coming from far. I am not going to give him up to this whore.

L.G.

Dear L.G.,

It is unfortunate that you call this young woman a whore. On the other hand, it is true that she has expressed love for your husband and told her friends that she must get him. But you should bear in mind that your husband did not have to go to her. Instead of going to bed with her, he should have told her from the very outset that he was taken. When he went to bed with her he gave her the impression that he needed her in his life and he must have told her how beautiful she looked and that she had an irresistible body. While you have every right to condemn this girl, your husband ought to bear most of the blame. I hope you understand what I have said. Both you and your husband should try to reconcile your marriage before it deteriorates further. Please watch your weight and consider going to the gym.

Pastor