Think I’m pregnant for my man’s friend

Dear Pastor,

This is the second time that I am writing to you. I did not hear from you the first time, but perhaps you did not get my first letter. I will be 20 soon. My boyfriend is 24.

I am pregnant but the child is not his. He thinks that he is the one who got me pregnant and he tells everybody how good he feels because he has a babymother. The other guy who got me pregnant says I should allow my boyfriend to take care of me and he would stay in the background because he cannot support me. Nobody knows about our little secret. Both men are of dark complexion, so I am not worried about the colour of the baby's skin. You may wonder how I got involved with two men. Both of these men are friends and they work in the same organisation and they offered me protection, and I cheated on my boyfriend the same night. I know it was not my boyfriend who got me pregnant because he used the condom and when we were finished having sex, I checked it and it worked. The other guy did not use a condom and he was in a hurry to have sex and he discharged in me.

When I missed my period and told him that he got me pregnant, he told me that I should either give it to my boyfriend or dash it away. He has a girlfriend and she has three children for him. My boyfriend does not have any children. But suppose when this child is born it resembles the other guy, what would I do? Pastor, I need your advice right away.

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Dear writer,

You have not said what caused you to cheat on your boyfriend. You are however in trouble. As the song writer says, " your cheating heart will tell on you". It is just a matter of time before the truth will be revealed. You may hide the truth for a long time, but it will be revealed. So perhaps you should tell your boyfriend that you cheated on him and see how he would react. I would not insist that you do so until the child is born or he questions you about it. Although you feel sure that it is not your boyfriend who impregnated you, you can do a DNA test to ascertain the truth and that will set your mind at ease.

Pastor