Think my fiancé is too nice

Dear Pastor,

I am a regular reader of your column and I need your advice. I am engaged to be married. I love my fiance, but I am only 26 years old, and he is also 26.

But every day I wonder if I would be able to be faithful to him if we were to get married. Don't get me wrong, I love him and we have been in this relationship for three years, the longest I have ever stayed with a man. I ask myself why I have stayed with him for so long. It is not the sex, because I have had better lovers. I have to admit to myself that he gives me more money. That is really a factor. He does not hold back when I ask him for cash, and he has never told me that I like money too much. He does not search my phone. One of my girlfriends told me that it would be a crime to cheat on this type of man because he trusts me too much. He is simple. Sometimes when he asks me questions and I answer, he just accepts everything I say.

I don't know if he will change. We have never had a fight. I wish we would fight sometimes. He does not want to go out much, and he has my name in his two accounts. He wants us to get married at the end of the year, but I need to love him more. How do I go about doing that? My love for him is not strong, so please tell me what to do.

B.R.

Dear B.R.,

You have been in this relationship for three years and it is not strong. You might not like what I am about to say, but I am going to tell you nevertheless. You should end the relationship with him because you are using him. You are only with him for money, and a woman like you is dangerous. If this man should find out that you do not love him and all you want is his money, he may hurt you. So don't allow him to find that out. Pack your belongings and go. I am sure that you have been trying to love him, but that is not working. You are proof that one cannot buy love. Regardless of how much a man may use money, it cannot buy the love of a woman. So tell this man that you are going to go. Pack up and go straight to your parents' home. Set this man free, and set your conscience free. That is all I have to say.

Pastor