Snack vendor took my virginity

Dear Pastor,

I am a 30-year-old man and my woman is 40. This woman has taught me a lot about sex. I started to have sex with her when I was in my last year at high school.

She used to sell at the school gate and when I didn't have money, she used to give me bun and cheese for free, and I used to run errands for her. Sometimes I would push her cart with her goods to her home after school and wait on her. I would eat dinner there before I went home; that is how I got into her. She was the one who took my virginity as a young boy. She wants me to do the same work she is doing - and that is to buying and selling. She has money to give me. She is organising to get me a cart. My mother knows what is going on but she doesn't say anything. This woman has three children. They also know that their mother and I are 'dealing', but they are not saying anything. Please give me your advice.

C.K.

Dear C.K.,

This woman saw you as a naive young man and took advantage of your naivety. She knew you were poor and she offered you bun and cheese and drinks, and you were happy for that. What a terrible woman! To this day, this woman has you as her lover, but I must urge you to bring this relationship to an end. You don't need to join this woman in doing the buy-and-sell business. You don't need a cart. You need to contact HEART NSTA/Trust and register in one of its programmes. You would be doing yourself a world of good.

Pastor