Not looking to get married again

Dear Pastor,

In August I will be 60, and I neither feel like it or look it. I hardly have wrinkles. My girlfriends and I used to go out and eat and hope that we would catch the eyes of these single men.

But since COVID-19, we don't go out anymore. We go to each other's homes and play cards. My husband died six years ago and the only thing I miss is having him around to massage me and to tell me how much he loves me. I don't want to get married again. I was married twice. My first husband was a cheater, but my second husband was a gem and he has left me well off. I have two children by him and they are in business. I go to church but not often. I spend most of my time during the days watching movies. I don't have any request, I just want you to know that I enjoy reading your column and you should keep up your good work.

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Dear writer,

Thank you for writing and for your words of encouragement. I am glad that your husband has not left you poor and that your children are doing well. Evidently both of you had a good relationship. You say you do not wish to get married again. Not many women are as fortunate as you. You have everything to your comfort and you are already 60. If you are in good health, you have many more years ahead of you. Although your life is not boring, I would suggest that you use some of your time and volunteer to do charitable work. I am sure that organisations like the Salvation Army can use your help. I just wonder if a woman like you would not consider being a foster parent. Please don't curse me, but there are so many children you can help to mould for a brighter tomorrow. Thank you so much for writing and all the best.

Pastor