I may punish my jealous man by cheating on him

February 22, 2021

Dear Pastor,

I am 21 and I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for two years. He is quite a loving guy, but he is very jealous. I told him that he doesn't have to be so jealous of me because I have never cheated on him, and I don't intend to do so, but that has not prevented him from questioning me.

If I tell him I am going out, he would say okay, but he would show up at the place when I don't expect him. My sister just had a baby, and she is living in Portmore. One Saturday I went to see her. I was there for about an hour, and my boyfriend showed up and he couldn't give me any good reason for coming. Pastor, I am not a bad girl.

This man is going to cause me to punish him by cheating because that is what I can do. Even when my brothers call me on my cell phone, he wants to know why they have to be calling me so often. I don't like the way he is behaving because he is much older than I am. He is 37. I am not working, and he is sending me back to school. I am trying my best not to get pregnant by him. He just keeps watching me wherever I go.

W.

Dear W.,

Your boyfriend doesn't have any confidence in you and that is so unfortunate. But what he needs to understand is that if a woman wants to cheat, she can, and he can watch her with his two eyes wide open, and he would not even see when she does it. When it comes to this matter about cheating, women are much better than men. Women find out about a man's cheating much quicker than when a man finds out when his spouse does it, unless he catches her in the very act.

Why should a man question his spouse when her brother calls her? This 37-year-old man is very silly, and his behaviour is not going to improve. It's likely to get worst the older he becomes.

I am not suggesting that you leave him now, but you should tell him that he is driving you away from him, and unless he changes his behaviour, you are not going to stay with him.

Pastor

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